When a woman asks what she should do about her cheating husband the answer is not easy to some by. Solutions may be counseling, prayer, forgiveness, or divorce. In any case, the answer is not simple. When someone is unfaithful its difficult to rid that image from your mind.
Just recently, a caller on the 700 Club had this problem with her marriage. She explains to host Pat Robertson that she had been “…I’ve been trying to forgive my husband for cheating on me,” the woman further writes, “We have gone to counseling, but I just can’t seem to forgive, nor can I trust. How do you let go of the anger? How do you trust again?”In many cultures adultery is viewed as an ultimate betrayal of trust because it shames the cherished institution of marriage. Adultery is even one of the “ten commandments”. One would think that the 700 club and its conservative christian ideology would console the woman who was cheated on. Not on this occasion.
Instead of telling the caller to try to forgive the man she loved or perhaps leave him because of his infidelity Robertson tells the woman that it is her fault. He says that men are bound to wander if the woman isn’t providing a “wonderful” home that he won’t want to leave. He, being stuck perpetually in the 1950s goes on to ask the rhetoricals “Does he provide food for you to eat? Does he provide clothes for you to wear? Is he nice to the children… Is he handsome?” He also told the caller to just “stop talking about the cheating.” He also goes on to mock her by imitating a wife upset about a cheating husband.
Pat Robertson has a long track record of degrading the role of women in a marriage and blaming them for the increase in infidelity and divorce. He was blamed “awful-looking” women for the rise in divorce. He has often insinuated that a woman needs to look attractive for her husband but doesn’t demand the same from the male counterpart.
He has told women to stop complaining about the wondering eyes of their husbands and instead just look as attractive so that he will like you more.
This latest incident from the infamous Pat Robertson should not come as a surprise given his track record for outlandish conservative ideas. Its just sad to think that he, his followers, and people who think like him think the way they do about marriage dynamics and the role of women. His constant assumptions that the man is the main bread winner and that women have the obligation to be “attractive” are from the dark ages. At the end of the segment with the woman and her adulterous husband he tells her to “thank god for your marriage”…even though it may be one filled with betrayal.